Is anyone who feels empathy considered an empath?

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Earlier this week, I noticed a post by an acquaintance of mine on Facebook saying she’s confused and annoyed with people claiming to be Empaths. She conceded she believes there are many talents and skills which can make someone unique, but she doesn’t believe feeling empathy is one of them.

According to her, everyone (except psychopaths and various other personality disorders) feels empathy and therefore everyone is an Empath. She went on to say, people who label themselves as Empaths believe they’re, “unique and fairy-like and require a lot of woo-woo things like extra self-care and spiritual protection’’.

I rarely…


The digital age is changing the way we’ll look at everything

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I’ve been thinking a lot about history lately. Partly because for the last year, we’ve been continually reminded that we’re “living through history” right now. Mostly, this reminder is used to encourage people to care about our current situation, whether COVID or politics. It’s a warning to everyone that this is a time future generations will look back on and scrutinize. …


I don’t regret it either.

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At the beginning of January, Hello Love published my essay called I Know You're Sleeping With My Boyfriend. It takes place during one particular day in my early twenties when I received a voicemail from the girlfriend of a guy I had recently started dating. Throughout a series of events, she and I spent the day together. Later the same evening, we also confronted him together.

This article received far more attention than anything else I’ve written. While I didn’t expect it to take off as it did, I get it. It’s an interesting story and probably not a situation…


It’s been a couple of hundred years since our last Age of Enlightenment, aren’t we due for an update?

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Choices were made over the last few decades which accumulated and became responsible for the fall out of the last few years politically, systemically, socially, and environmentally speaking.

In some ways, it feels as though we’re on the brink as a species. Maybe it’s just me, but it appears our options are either to find our courage and change things around or, continue on this path and leave the world's children (and grandchildren) to deal with the consequences of our choices.

It stands to reason in times like these, that we should look to the past for answers. Ideally, we…


There used to be several species of humans, some of which we bred with.

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As a species, we have an obsession. We dream and search for other intelligent beings. We imagine magical witches and wizards. We search for aliens and create plans for when we meet one. We devise stories about mythical vampires and werewolves which get passed down through generations.

There are over 7.8 billion humans, yet we still feel alone. We don’t want to be the only intelligent species. We long to interact with others.

Well, it turns out that for thousands of years we weren’t alone. Not only were there other intelligent species, but they were humans. Some of them went…


Freedom of Speech doesn’t mean your words won’t have consequences

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Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

— 1st Amendment of the U.S. Constitution

Among other things, the first amendment means as an American, the government can not stop you from saying what you want. Freedom of speech is probably one of the most well-known parts of the United States constitution. …


This motto is limited to social ethics, not relationships

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Treat others how you wish to be treated, is a lesson of ethics from childhood that stuck to me like Silly Putty on my parent’s blue velvet couch. The goal of the phrase is to teach young humans how to socialize and cohabitate without using violence or cruelty. In terms of societal ethics, it makes a certain amount of sense.

But my younger self took it to heart. This simple mantra served as a measurement for my relationships, romantic or otherwise, well into my twenties. …


We’re better than we’ve been behaving

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Out of all of our emotions, there’s one in particular which still eludes us. Even the definition of this emotion isn’t set in stone but rather is pliable in meaning and varies from person to person.

Most of us, though not all of us, experience it in one way or another. We logically know it’s important — yet struggle to act on it. Lately, it seems, we actively avoid it. The emotion I’m talking about, of course, is empathy.

Empathy is a biological emotion helping our species survive. Without it, infants would never live to adulthood because no one would…


The little things might have the biggest ripple effects

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This is an example of what you’ll find in your inbox every Friday morning when you sign up for my free newsletter, Curious Adventure. I hope you enjoy it.

If you don’t already know, I have a seven-year-old fur child named Albert. He’s an opinionated Lhasa Apso, overly spoiled, and enormously loved. (I included a pic of him at the end) Yesterday, I took him for a walk. At one point, my earbuds pumped music into my skull and my gaze lingered on a crow amongst bare branches in a tree up ahead while Albert sniffed the millionth tree/bush/rock.

Then…


Most importantly, do our memories define us?

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How much of your life do you remember, really? You might like to think you remember everything, or at least almost everything. After all, you were there, you lived it, right?

I hate to break it to you, but you may not remember as much as you think. And what you do recall, might not actually be an accurate depiction but rather an emotional story you tell yourself.

Like dreaming, our memories still hold mysteries mankind has yet to solve. Where exactly are memories located? Why do we remember some things and not others? And how do our memories shape…

Katrina Paulson

Life is a curious adventure. I write words & hope they help people not be jerks to each other. Get my newsletter: https://curiousadventure.substack.com/embed

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